Children needs to be helped to make good choice and also stay out of trouble as they grow up because, they can easily derailed or become rebellious towards the family, society or teachers due to peer influence. That pose challenge to guardian; I bid you not to worry. Here is the way out herein how to help children make good choice and stay out of trouble. It is a complete guide that simplify best approach to solving this challenge.
Children characters while growing up: They feel like they are grown up and can do what they like without anyone having the freedom or authority of prying into their lives. They easily forget that they have adults and experienced people around them who has once been in their shoes and has taken one step or the other each producing right or wrong results. Some they enjoy till this day and some they regret.
One of the guardian role in upbringing: It is important as a parent to guide your children as they grow in life. Also pay rapt attention to their choices of words, attitudes, dressings, studying and generally their lives styles. A child will surely reach a stage where they won’t want to let you be a determining factor in their choice and decision makings. But you as a parent must take some steps directly or set controls indirectly to create an avenue where the child will never be able to misbehave or take a wrong step without thinking of consequences else, making you(Guardian) one of the determining factors that will influence positive decision and good end result should be prioritize first in every step they about to take. Do not make it look you domineering.
In fact trying to lord over your children can be disastrous. It will create distance even when all you wanted was to close the gap and be able to make them open up. Parents must never fail in their roles of helping their children make good choices. Sooner or later it will come back to bite or even ruin the family’s image whence wrong choice are taken. In order to control bad kind of mishap’ this guide will enhance your understanding and empower you with best information you required to set control.
How to help children make good choice and stay out of trouble
There are many ways to help children make good choices; few that are most important are discussed below,.
To help children make good choice, take steps below
- Create an avenue for self-discovery:
While some children discover their talents and what they want to venture in at early stage of their lives, we have some children who have to try and indulge in many activities to be able to discover their talents and abilities.
It is not advisable for parents to force their own visions and dreams on their children, it will only make things difficult for them especially when they are not interested in that particular vision or doesn’t have the required abilities. Let your children say for themselves what they want to do. Do your best in supporting them with all things they might need and encourage them. If by chance they get tired of it, ask them why and counsel them. It may be that he/she got stuck. Seek their opinion to decide if they want to continue or if they will try out new things.
- Let them make mistakes:
Take a look at a kid trying to stand up and walk from the crawling stage, the parents leave the child to do what he/she likes and watch the kid closely so as to assist the kid when he/she wants to fall. In this instance, they leave the kid to make mistakes as the kid attempts to walk. Give room, let them decide, watch them closely from behind so as to give an helping hand less they get hurt. By so doing, you instilling decision making skills into children.
The interesting thing is the kid will eventually learn how to go about it when the kid falls for some times and will become stable with time. As children grow, you have to watch closely with open mind and sense of belonging from behind into their activities. Sure’ mistake is inevitable, so watch them do something and make some mistakes. As this also is an avenue to teach them life lesson. Their mistake are avenue to orientate on how best they can structure their taught, behaviours, making decision and exploring opportunities. Avoid unnecessary scolding or nagging when they make mistake. Kids will only get curious if you shout at them when they are wrong instead of talking it out. So as parent embrace stepping back and let them make a mistake, cry, learn lesson from it and run to you for advice. However always be prepared for counsels and you must make sure you are waiting behind with open arms to receive them.
- Let them have a taste of the real world:
Don’t just pamper kids, let them realize the struggle of the world and help guide them. A kid only spending money will not know the value of the money until he/she is made to work for it. Give them challenges that will make their rewards worth it in their minds and make them say they did something to deserve and earn it proudly. If you pamper them too much, someday’ they will misbehave when they set out to the real world alone else can’t be with them every where, instill sense of belong to social entity into them starting early in childhood.
- Know about your child’s interest help grow it:
If by chance your child loves playing musical instrument, the least you can do as a parent is to learn about musical instrument of the child’s choice, show interest and help the child practice or even discuss when needed. It kills the spirit and morale of a child if they bring up a discussion about their interests and all you can say is what is that? Who is that? What does that mean? They will find you boring and not include you in their decisions about their interests. Meaning, you won’t be able to tell if they are making progress or not.
- Praise your kid:
A child that takes his/her first footstep earns a lot of wow and applause from their parents because of the effort they had shown. Do well to applaud your children, praise them and tell them they did well and made an effort. Even if they are not at the best level, still congratulate them on every little effort, they will want to work more and receive more of the praise. That is more better than ridicule or using derogative words. Don’t be hostile or harsh to their mistakes, instead correct them in love.
- Have heart to heart talk with your children:
As guardian, it does good when your children can confide in you. Make them your friend. Often move closer to your child and have a heart to heart talk with him/her over what they want, what they are doing or trying to do.
Discuss with children how they plan to go about things that concern them and the problems they are facing. Do not pressure them or shout at them to say their minds instead you can cook them their favorite meals, get them their favorite snacks, gift them clothes and toys and ask meekly about their lives. From there you can help them take decisions and guide them to the way of good results.
Children can not avoid not getting in trouble as long as they live because they are reckless and mindless of results. All they want is to have fun of that moment without caring about what will come next after their actions. but parents can help children make good choice and minimize the way they fall in trouble.
As good parent you must be up and doing to help them stay out of trouble completely. You must study and know your children well so as to know the level of strictness that will be used in handling the child or controlling their misbehaviors. Some children only needs warning, some needs attention, some needs gentle talk, some needs scolding and some are so stubborn that they need punishment but no matter how don’t let the punishment be more than the love you show because it will only drift you and your child apart.
To help children stay out of trouble take the following steps
- Get them interested in a career:
An idle hand is the devil’s workshop they say. On no account should you let child roam about unnecessarily. Get them interested in benefitting careers or extracurricular activities to keep them busy. Not that you won’t give them the room to play or have fun but never let their fun overshadow their seriousness.
If you find yourself in a neighborhood filled with people who won’t enhance your child growth in the right way, do not let your child mingle with them. Never allow your kid make friends with them because they will get influenced by them negatively if care is not taken sooner or later.
- Take your children on family trips:
Make sure you create time to spend with your child. Get together and have fun. Don’t let them miss, starve or crave for your care and attention. It will make them branch out to where they will get attention and they might land in the wrong place at the end of the day. Always take them out to spend quality time as much as you can. It also an avenue to instill socialization skills.
- Spend on your kids:
Do not be stingy to your kids. After all you are working to make your family a reputable one. Do not let your child be short of money, make sure they have keeps to spend in school or when they need things. But don’t give them more than they need and also be sure to monitor how they spend the money. Some kids join bad gangs when they are short of money. Others join bad cohorts when they have more than enough. Make sure the rate at which you give your child money is on a balanced sale.
- Teach them the word of God
Teach a children the way they should go and when they are of age, they will never depart from it. Word of God should be the standard. Read and meditate therein together. Pray together, sing praise together and fellowship with children of God.
Create separate time to also pray for your children. it is proven that prayer has best positive impact on everything. Invite God presence unto your children life. Feed them with bread of life. And you will never regrets you did.
Children are unique and the way to raise them is also unique, so parents must strive to make sure their children grow up properly and turn into a decent adult. Help your children make good choice and stay out of trouble with what you have learnt so far. Don’t keep this information to your self alone, assist other parents by sharing’ together we make the world a better place for all. You’ve got a comment or have a question to ask, kindly use the comment box below, sure’ of getting a quick response. I am always willing to help. Thanks
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