By Folaji I. Odedeji
Absolutely, the one who impacts knowledge into a group of students in a building called classroom and makes sure to guide them morally, academically, personally and emotionally is called a teacher. If this simply describe who a teacher is’ then, how can a teacher get along with pupil?
Fostering strong teacher and pupil relationship is one of the key to effective social emotional learning. Read on to find out “how?”, here in this guide I’ve simplified ways to make it happen.
Most times people tend to believe that teachers are only meant to teach students and are not meant to interfere in their other lives but this belief is entirely wrong. A teacher is meant to develop a child in all aspect of their lives so that they won’t excel in one and fail, lag behind or lack in the other.
A teacher should not expect the children to welcome him/her with opened arms the very first time they step into their class to introduce themselves as their new class, course or subject teacher because, they are still a stranger to the students.
The more they present themselves to the class, the better the class learns to accept them, their ways of teaching and also their personalities; but, they can learn to work more on the students accepting them, liking them and end up fall in love with their class and way of teaching.
Definitely, it is not a day job. This can’t be achieved in just a week and even sometimes a month because the classroom is made up of students with various backgrounds, manners, way of accepting strangers and getting used to them and also performance.
I hope you will understand this as a teacher. You don’t force yourself on pupil, rather you are to work on how you can balance the relationship with time amidst them and the class gradually.
How teacher can get along with pupils?
Following are few tips and steps on how a teacher can bond easily with pupil and develop good relationship with them. And in order words foster a long lasting relationship that will enable you to impact them meaningfully which will in turn make you derive best results in all areas of their life within and outside the box called classroom.
Tips and steps to take
- Get to know them by name:
As a teacher, you must learn and know the names of the children in your class. Once you introduce yourself to them, it doesn’t hurt to allow them introduce themselves too. In fact, you can make the first class all about introductions and learn their respective names.
When you want to ask a children question or needs their attention, avoid the use of “Hey”, “You”, “that boy/girl over there”. Though you can’t know them all by their names while you starting out but gradually you will as much as you keep interacting with them.
Where you can’t remember a name, you can move closer and path the kid slightly by the shoulder and a simple word “remind me of your name” will cut it positively . The kid or child will say his/her name once again and you can then say “Tony, can you explain this to the class?”.
Take note; humans hate when you address them as “You” or “Hey” especially when you are not close because it sounds rude’ but, once you do what I mentioned earlier, they will feel respected and do whatever you ask of them.
- Make them know you and you know them in return
Tell your pupils all they ought to know about yourself. Starting from your name, nationality, hobbies, likes, dislikes, favorite foods, passion, interest etc. Try to open the floor to an opinion free environment and don’t condemn the foods, sports or interests about them, I am sure! you won’t like to make them feel withdrawn.
Don’t go around saying “I don’t understand why anyone would waste their time chasing after a football when there is volleyball available” because, the kids or children who loves football will feel insulted and down cast. They might pick offence or even want to counter you. But, will be afraid to since you are a teacher and through that, they will feel distanced. They will not want to give you listening ear since you insulted what their likes are.
- Converse with them
Don’t just go about the day’s job or topic in the class when you step in. Ask about their day, health and how their condition is. If they need to be warmed up, do a little exercise with them. If they feel down due to an incidence or happenings, try to cheer them up and you can even sing songs with them to ease the tension and their heavy hearts to prepare their feelings for the day’s work.
- Listen actively to them
If any of them is having any complaint or report to make, listen attentively to what they have to say and don’t cut in while they are talking. If it’s a fight or quarrel between two students, don’t pick sides or cut in while they are giving sides of their story.
Work towards the complaints they laid and give them solution instantly or tell you will give them solution soon, don’t forget to get back to them. Help them foster the spirit of sportsmanship.
- Spend time with them
It is very important to always spend time with your pupils. Take them to the school field, have some fun, take them outside the school with proper permission and show them different things. Let them catch up with one another and have fun, and note the level of excitement of each student.
Also, approach anyone you see not having fun’ to ask if they don’t like the particular place, sport or activity or if it’s an issue different entirely from school and try to motivate them to have fun for that moment and forget everything. They will be thankful when they finally have fun like you suggested.
- Share relevant anecdotes
Share personal stories and funny occurrence that are relevant to them in class and make them laugh sometimes. Give them real life experiences and how you went about it, the result and any remedy or solution you made at the end of the day.
Tell them stories to teach, warn and motivate them for either past mistakes, current situations or future occurrences especially about choice making and their end points. This makes them start to believe and build confidence in you.
- Give them one-on-one assessment and support
Set aside a day when you will access them morally, emotionally and academically even in manners. Give them trials and see how they turn out. Leave them to do everything you give them, then support them after giving them their assessment scores, tell them why their performance score was like that, how they can improve and what to do to adjust.
- Keep your door open
Make sure to let them understand you are always open to listen to them personally. Give them the comfort and space to talk to you about whatever they are passing through or choices.
Tell them they are free to share steps they are about to take with you for proper guardian and give them the best advise possible both from your point of view and also from their own view point.
Make them understand why they should follow your advice and also let them know that you are not forcing it on them, it’s just an advice.
- Develop mutual trust and respect
Make the children trust you, behave you their parent once a while, don’t be a teacher who go backs on their words or who table the matters or issues brought to you by them privately in the open or address it in the class.
Such a student will never trust you or even talk to you anymore, you will therefore lose your respect and they will never trust or respect you no matter how you try. Respect them and their privacy and they will do the same, respect is reciprocal after all.
- Shower them with praise and encouragement
Don’t insult any child! Don’t kill their esteem! No matter how bad a child is academically, you don’t insult them or call them names. They already know they are not doing well and sad on their own, by insulting them, you cause more damage. Instead encourage them and praise them, show them you are routing for them and they can do it like others or even more than.
When they make mistakes, praise the ones they got right and guide them in the ones they got wrong with love, encourage them to do better and hammer it in them that there is always a next time, sure’ this will boost and not kill their morale.
- Greet them cheerfully, don’t threaten them
Wear a smile’ it is a sign you love and care. Don’t come into the classroom looking angry and scary or with a cane as long as the one meant for a goat or masquerade. In fact, you don’t need cane to teach children, but why would you want to beat them?
Scolding kids by hitting with rods is not good; Please don’t else you create a lasting scar. Greet them cheerfully with smile to brighten up their day, welcome them afresh and give them a positive feeling for the day.
- Keep them updated about recent happenings by taking surveys and encourage an atmosphere for questions
Let them know and be aware of what’s happening in their surroundings, take survey of how updated they are and open the floor for whatever questions they might have in their mind. Don’t just be based on educational aspect, branch out to political, religions and other areas of live so they have a broadened knowledge map.
- Avoid favoritism
Don’t pick a favorite! Don’t have a favorite child or set of children, it will scare others away and create a divided class. Relate with all of them equally, love them equally regardless of their level of knowledge, brilliancy or manners, and don’t pick a side or favorite.
It takes time to evenly harmonies with people and so, surely’ It will be more easier on both the teacher and children if you follow the steps and tips listed above; but, with continuous efforts, trials and approach, the balance will be met and a good relationship will be made. All I mentioned are gathered from my experience interacting with children in a class base setting.
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