What is the universal response gotten from parents when asked what they want for their children? Answer will be, they want the happiness of their children. Meaning to parents, the well-being of children is more critical than anything else.
However, children at different stage deserve different upbringing respect to the period. In this context, how to raise an happy child among other children stages with related period is what I am about to unveil knowing fully well that, the approach on how to care, develop and parenting at each stage differs.
With wealth’s of information available on raising smart and successful children out there online’ but, the quest is; how do you raise happy child? Definitely! it very vital for good parent to know’ therefore, in this content I will be discussing how to raise a happy child at each stages and respective periods?
It can be quite difficult to strike a balance between what is best for the children and what makes them happy — but, the two do not have to be mutually exclusive. Children who are happier are more likely to grow up to be healthy, wealthy and accomplished adults. In a world where success is valued, happiness is a huge plus. On average, happy people are more popular at work and in love than unhappy people.
How to raise happy child?
So, what really works in terms of raising happy child? But, first consider who a a child is but an individual whose age fall within stage of birth and puberty. The period which cognitive, emotional and social development is very important.
A stage where your little one is learning lots of things which include to walk, talk, read, socialize etc. And to successfully raise a happy child within this age adhere to the below proven steps.
Make Yourself Happy
The first step toward happier children is to model happiness for them. How happy you are has a significant impact on how happy and successful your children are.
Extensive research has shown a strong correlation between depressed mothers and their children’s “bad consequences,” such as acting out and other behavioral issues. Parental depression appears to trigger behavioral issues in children, as well as making our parenting less successful.
And it’s not only because of genetics; while the study discovered that happy parents are statistically more likely to have happy children, it couldn’t find any genetic part.
So, what’s the first step to being a better version of yourself? Make time from the week to socialize with your peers.
Hang out with friends or family members who are likely to be enjoying themselves, because laughter is infectious. Their laughter can make you laugh as well, but it isn’t required to lift your spirits. Hearing another human laugh, according to neuroscientists, activates mirror neurons in a brain area that makes listeners feel as if they are laughing as well.
Teach’ how to form bonds with others
Nobody disputes the importance of learning about relationships, but how many parents really take the time to teach their children how to interact with others?
It isn’t difficult. It can begin by motivating children to perform small acts of kindness in order to foster empathy.
This not only develops important skills and makes your children better people, but evidence indicates that it also makes them happy in the long run.
Over the course of two years, patients with multiple sclerosis (MS) who were trained to have caring, unconditional positive regard for other MS patients through monthly fifteen-minute phone calls reported significant improvements in self-confidence, self-esteem, depression, and role functioning. This goes to show that empathy, showing love, compassion, and the building of relationships can be taught.
Expect effort rather than perfection
Constant hammering on achievement pressures the children. Meaning, parents who place a high value on achievement are more likely to have children who suffer from depression, anxiety, or drug abuse than other children. It’s important to note that you should praise effort rather than natural talent.
The majority of the smart kids preferred the simpler puzzle because they didn’t want to risk losing their “smart” status by making a mistake. On the other side, more than 90% of children with a growth mindset preferred a more difficult puzzle.
This is because when we commend children for their commitment and hard work, they want to continue participating in the process. They aren’t distracted from their learning by concerns about how smart — or not — they appear.”
Instill optimism in your child
If you want to stop dealing with a grumpy adolescent? Then teach those pre-adolescents to be optimistic. When ten-year-old kids are encouraged to think and view the world optimistically, they are half as likely to develop depression as they reach puberty. Therefore starting early to foster optimism will help the child as he/she grow.
“Optimism is so closely linked to happiness that the two can literally be equated,” author Christine Carter says. She contrasts optimists and pessimists, concluding that optimists:
- Are more competitive in school, the workplace, and sports
- Are in better shape and live longer
- End up being happier in their relationships
- Have a lower risk of depression and anxiety.
Emotional intelligence should be taught
Emotional intelligence is a learned ability, not a genetic trait. It’s unrealistic to expect children to “naturally” grasp their own emotions, let alone the emotions of others. When they’re dealing with rage or frustration, a clear first move is to empathize, mark, and validate.
Relate to the infant and toddlers, assist them in identifying their feelings, and assure them that they are normal (even though bad behavior might not be). It’s fine to experience a range of emotions, but ignoring them or avoiding the subject is risky.
Make happiness a habit
It will seem that you already have a lot to remember — let alone a newborn. With healthy habits, we will solve this. It is difficult to think about these strategies, but once they are formed, acting in a habitual manner is easy.
How do you assist children in developing long-term happiness habits?
Here are a few efficient, research-based methods:
- Removal of stimuli: Remove any potential distractions and temptations. Get It Known: Set objectives to raise social support — as well as social pressure.
- One Objective at a Time: Willpower is depleted when there are too many goals, particularly for children. Before adding another habit, make sure the first one is strong.
- Keep Going: Don’t expect perfection right away. It will take some time. Relapses are inevitable. That’s perfectly natural. Continue to reinforce, and be model to by practicalizing what you teach.
Self discipline should be taught
Self-discipline in children is a better predictor of potential success than knowledge, even’ I mean almost anything else.
Yes, it’s time for the famous marshmallow test once more. Kids that were better at resisting temptation had much better lives and were happy years later.
The tendency of preschoolers to postpone gratification–to wait for the second marshmallow–predicts adolescent intellect, academic performance, and social skills.
This is due, in part, to the fact that self-discipline aids learning and information processing. Self-disciplined children often deal better with anger and stress and have a stronger sense of social responsibility.
In other words, self-discipline leads to greater satisfaction, more friends, and improved community involvement, in addition to academic achievement and sitting nicely at the dinner table.
What is a good way to begin teaching self-control?
Assist children in learning to resist temptation.
One method is to physically mask the lure by covering the enticing marshmallow. In one study, 75 percent of children were able to wait a full fifteen minutes for the second marshmallow when the reward was hidden; none of the children were able to wait this long when the reward was clear.
More Time to Play
These days, we hear a lot about mindfulness and meditation, and both are extremely beneficial. However, getting kids to do them on a daily basis can be difficult. What comes close to working for kids? It Is more time to play and enjoy.
When they play, most kids already practice mindfulness, or completely appreciating the present moment. However, today’s children spend less time playing both inside and outside… Over the last two decades, children have lost an average of eight hours of open, unstructured, and spontaneous play each week…
Playtime isn’t just goofing off. It’s important for children’s development and learning.
Researchers conclude that the drastic decrease in unstructured playtime is contributing to the cognitive and emotional growth of children. Child-led, unstructured play (with or without adults) encourages academic, physical, social, and emotional well-being in addition to helping kids learn to self-regulate.
Children learn how to work in communities, share, compromise, resolve disputes, control their feelings and actions, and speak up for themselves through unstructured play.
There are no strict instructions needed here: Allow more opportunities for your children to go outside and play.
Set up their environment to make them happy
We might not want to admit it, but our surroundings have a huge impact on us, much more than we know.
What’s an easy way to gain more leverage over a child’s environment and maximize the impact of your intentional efforts to make them happy?
There will be less television.
There is a clear correlation between happiness and not watching television, according to research. Sociologists believe happier people watch far less television than unhappy people.
We don’t know if TV makes people sad or if people who are still unhappy watch more TV. But we do know that there are a variety of programs that can assist our children in becoming content, well-adjusted adults.
Our children are not doing those things that will make them happy in the long run while they are watching television.
Dinner should be shared
Often, what research does is confirm what our grandparents already knew. Yes, having a family dinner is important. This simple tradition helps to shape better children while also making them happy.
Children who eat dinner with their families on a regular basis are more emotionally stable and less likely to consume drugs and alcohol, according to studies.
They earned higher grades. They show fewer signs of depression, particularly among adolescent girls. They’re much less likely to gain weight or develop an eating disorder.
In terms of training your children for kindergarten, family meals also trump reading to them. These links persist even after researchers take into account family ties.
Create time to sing, dance and pray together
This goes a long way in fostering love and friendship. It also create sense of belonging amidst happy people called family. Thus, is rooted in instilling socialization skills starting from home.
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I am sure, upbringing a child though hard could be lots easier if, parents learn the intricacies and also start early in childhood to implementing effective parenting practices.
Upbringing; how to raise a happy child? is what you have learnt so far. Having to implement what you’ve learn is good’ though with care and mutual understanding knowing fully well that kids learn and the effect will gradually show if you properly administer.
The process is for you to finetune or adjust where applicable and also be observant to feedback. Raising a happy child begins from home and start with parents/guardian thereafter teachers, families and friends.
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