By Folaji I. Odedeji
Proven approach to limit children rough and tumble play.
Playing as a child is one of the things or characteristics that determine how healthy, strong, agile and vibrant a child is but should not go out of control else, excess may affect their IQ. and that is why parents/guardian and teachers must be informed on how to control child’s rough and tumble play at home and in school.
Though, a child that is either slow to play, seldom withdraw from the midst of friends or find it hard to interact with his or her peers may be considered ill. Despite the fact that children are generally known for their full energy and vigor. Even, they radiate powerful energy and display series of great powers for different activities because they in the stage; that is not enough to let them do out of parental or teacher control during play.
As parents/guardian, we must observe our children as they grow up and the changes in how they behave and interact with people. The teachers are not left out because children aside spending most of their time at school; at school also is where most kids come in contact with their peers to play irresistible.
Definitely, a child that runs around, shouting, disturbing others to the extent that it’s frustrating and making the rest of the class sick and tired is either too playful or even sick due to rush of impulses.
However, children while growing’ don’t know what is wrong from the right thing. Often times, they want to satisfy their curiosities and carry out whatever is going on in their mind; that is certain’ regardless of the outcome or the impact such may have both on themselves and the people in their environment, be it negative or positive’ really they are not to be blame; children loves play naturally.
Children doesn’t think twice before they make move and some may end up causing what they themselves didn’t intend to happen. Hence, making their parents, teachers or friends get angry or tired of them whenever they do that; meaning? such kid is constituting a nuisance to the peace of the environ.
With this trait in children, come to think of it that’ it is very important for guardian to not overlook the area of child play in their respective children play time and interaction stage. Bringing this to our knowledge because it is one of the most complex period in learning experience for children. And without delay, let look into meaning of rough and tumble play, important of playing rough and tumble, what can lead to same and how to control child rough and tumble play in order that it doesn’t go out of hand.
What is rough and tumble play?
Rough and tumble play is a form of play that takes form of competing between or among two or more individual most especially kids who are in the notion of to stand better advantages or claim kind of superiority of claims without the genuine motive of fighting. This kind of play can also be termed play fighting; for it seldom involve use of strength, force or flexing of muscle cooperatively for or against though not the type that result or end up as fight or quarrels.
Importance of playing rough and tumble
Playing rough and tumble works with building children in their physical skills and development of cognition, they are able to think fast and outside the box, provide solutions and memorize faster.
Playing rough and tumble also enhances their communication skills as they talk, play and move with other kids and even adults encouraging cooperative behaviour amidst disagreement inform form of building sportsmanship spirit.
Their social skills also develops as they learn to accept, agree, compromise, negotiate, refuse, step aside for others, slow down or even cooperate according to the rules guiding whatever the situation they find themselves either at home, outside or in the classroom.
What can lead children to playing rough and tumble
Many situations can lead to a kid playing too rough and tumble which includes but not limited to
- The feeling of being left unattended to.
- Not knowing how to spark a conversation.
- Not knowing when to stop.
- Things they learn from friends or siblings.
- Frustration and
- Sadness (yes, some kids play too much when they are sad, they pour out their sadness into rough play. They scream and run around to get the sad feeling off their head or mind).
Tips on how to control child’s rough and tumble play
There are many ways to control rough play in a child that appears or seems to play rough and tumble too much. They can be tamed to control their urge for rough and excessive plays. Some of the ways are listed below and explained to give the deep insight and how to go about it.
- Tell them how much force they use
You can call a kids’ attention to how much they scream, run and shout around. Tell them to wait a minute and take a look around their surroundings.
Let them see for themselves how the people around them are feeling and they will release what they are doing or have done. They themselves will adjust their energy in order not to hurt people and make them frustrated.
Some kids are quiet and don’t like noise, if there is a kid full of rough play in the midst of their activities, they will feel discouraged and withdrawn because they can’t handle the energy the kid is radiating and they don’t want to get hurt.
- Help them control their desires and impulse
Because the curiosity levels of children are higher, they tend to carry out whatever comes to their head. The parents and teachers should sit them down and tell them what to do when they have those impulses or desires.
They should reconsider and think about the consequence of the action they are about to take, drop the idea after weighing out the possibilities that someone might get in trouble, be in pain or cry because of their actions.
- Teach them to read body signs and cues using colors:
Kids might be able to read the body signs of their friends, siblings or family members when they are playing with them. If they are playing and others smiling, playing along or even laughing, interested in the play and joining them, the parents or teachers should teach them that it is a green light according to traffic light, they are doing well and not going overboard. If they are neither not playing nor pushing them away, then it’s yellow.
They feel comfortable as long as they keep it within a safe range but the moment they shout on them, are frustrated, leave them or even fight back, the kid should be able to detect that they are in the red light zone which signifies danger. With this they can be able to control their play either by staying still or reducing the intensity of their play.
- Explain to them or tell them stories they can relate to
Children learn a lot from stories, especially if it’s real life situations. Tell them stories of how their rough play or some other person’s rough play affected a certain situation or brought about a consequence or incident. Ask them if they are willing to inflict that type of pain on people and they will understand the impact of their behavior on others.
- Teach them how to get others’ attention
If a child is someone that doesn’t talk much or have the problem of initiating a conversation first, then teach them how to get attention from people. Explain to them how they can approach people like “excuse me, can I play with you?”, “excuse me, can we play ball or house together?”, “do you want to run together with me?”. Tell them to use this approach and they will know if the other party is willing to play with them instead of running around, slapping them, shoving them to get their attention.
- Calm down their energies through music
Be it at home or school, when the children are going through the music session, try to play music that they can rock slowly to, it will help them calm their energy and even think calmly. Don’t play too much hip and hyper song for a child that tends to play too much, it will only spark up their excessive energy and they might end up hurting someone or themselves.
- Limit them
Whenever you notice they are getting hyper and too rough, remove them from the cycle of friends or activities they are engaging in for the meantime. Sit them down to calm them and also tell them that they are getting too rough, caution them, drift their mind off the rough play using something educational and give them time before letting them return to the activities
- Mentor them to be soft
Let a hyper kid indulge in coloring, painting or drawing. Tell them to draw flowers, paint love slowly and color cute things. They will be able to calm their emotions down and focus at least for that moment. Try playing arm wrestle with them, feign weakness and let them win then win them again to show them strength to explain to them that sometimes they have to step back and sometimes they can press on.
- Do not while they are baby
Meaning do not engage your baby in rough and tumble play. Such play alike can be term rough handling which include throwing baby up, twisting upside down, wrestling, spinning round and other related stuff that can make your child think that is the way to play. Else, doing this mean you are kind of teaching your baby to embrace playing rough as he/she grow up.
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Although as long as a kids are healthy and vibrant, they will indulge in one rough and tumble play or the other’ that is certain. However, guardians and teachers should be able to control this whenever you found out that kids are abusing same privileges’ at play starting early in childhood so they can stay safe alongside the people in their environment.
Play rough and tumble is one of the very best experience children can have. It has many benefits aligned to child’s development’ however, same should not be abused.
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